threesome experience

October 18, 2017
threesome

Thoughts on Threesomes

Having a threesome is the ultimate fantasy amongst men. It is usually regarded as something that is done in porn films and not something you might usually expect to experience. However, it remains a taboo subject for most people. There are advantages and disadvantages with threesomes and you must weigh the cost accordingly. Pros: Exotic, erotic, and fun Fulfils your fantasy A new experience Spices up your sex life Cons: Emotional repercussions Can ruin your relationship Sexually transmitted infections Pandora’s Box One opened it can never be closed. Threesomes are considered more of a male fantasy and for many men the wish to have a threesome experience. However, for those that choose to fulfil this fantasy then your relationship will never be the same again and fit will change for better or worse. Be prepared for the consequences. Plan Accordingly Threesomes can be dangerous if you are not careful, especially participants that are involved in a relationship together. Communication is important and a must if you are considering this. If this is something you are planning with your girlfriend then you should make sure to ask a few questions first. What does she want to get out of it? When will it happen? How does she want it to happen? What is OK and not OK? What are our boundaries? What Girl (or Guy) do we Pick? When it comes to having a threesome enjoyment must be the main purpose but that enjoyment can put the relationship at risk. If you are a guy trying to get your girlfriend to allow another girl to join or another guy; the decision on which girl/guy to get is important. It is probably a good idea to get a girl/guy that is not more attractive than your girlfriend/boyfriend to avoid bruising her/his ego and/or making him/her jealous. A better idea is to let her/him choose and hope it is not her ugly friend from the salon or his obnoxious drinking buddy. Discretion should be everyone’s priority. You do not want everyone knowing your little secret as it could ruin it and the coolness factor of bragging to one’s friends is not worth it. Not only could it ruin your adventures but it could also ruin the reputations of everyone involved. Save the stories of how much a “freak in the sheets” your girlfriend/boyfriend is for the days when he/she is your ex. Will My Girl or Guy Have a Threesome? Threesomes are not for everyone and since they are such a taboo subject bringing up your desire to have one may not be easy. If your girlfriend or boyfriend is not into the more risqué type activities such as; oral sex, sex outside the bed, or other non-traditional sex acts, then you might just keep your threesome fantasy in the back of your mind. You may finally get what you want but again agreeing to it does not mean it will work out OK. There are many pitfalls that can be associated with threesomes. Someone gets benched: Two of the individuals enjoy each other so much that they forget about the other Loss of respect: No longer do you see this person as marriage material now they are just Switches teams: One of the participants breaks up with their partner to go with the other Bad Performance: Sex just may end up being bad Jealous Partner: Your partner may become jealous if you gave too much attention to the other person (true or false) You become Jealous: Because you got left out or lack of attention The Worse Possible Outcome The relationship is destroyed because you develop feelings for the other person. Maybe she did something better than your partner or was just a better fit for you sexually. Whatever the case might be the repercussions are not always positive and this ultimate fantasy may not be all that is cracked up to be. Ensuring a Good Experience There are 3 people involved in a threesome and just like “TEAM”, there is no “I” in it.  All three people need to shed selfish attitudes in order to ensure everyone will be satisfied and equal attention is given. Boundaries sound be set and communicated effectively and clearly. A couple looking for a 3rd partner may want to opt for an escort or escort services to avoid the personal issues with individuals you know and trying to find the right person out on the town.